Resources
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Everything in its right place.
—Radiohead
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Non-clinical self-assessments
300+ psychometric tests, scroll at random; discretion advised with some of these
Myers Briggs 16 personalities test (& types)
Big 5 personality test · Big 5, more granular
Experiences in close relationships scale
What’s your core relationship desire?
Disc workplace personality test
What’s your road trip personality?
Multidimensional happiness test
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Support around suicidal intensity
When suicidal thoughts do not go away
If you are suicidal, envision your future selves
What stops you from killing yourself?
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EMDR & Flash Technique
EMDR: The breakthrough therapy for overcoming anxiety, stress, and trauma
One foot in the present, one foot in the past
Free videos of EMDR sessions (discretion advised)
Anchoring in a positive experience practice
Lightstream practice · guided audio
Guided meditation: Inner Advisor in a beautiful place
The words we long to hear and believe
Flash technique · published research
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IFS: Internal Family Systems (parts work)
The unburdened internal system
Greater than the sum of our parts
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Trauma, the body & healing
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Grounding
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Mindful Focusing (felt-sense work)
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Attachment theory
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CBT: Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
The 8 cognitive distortions/limited thinking patterns
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DBT: Dialectical Behavior Therapy
Distract with Wise Mind ACCEPTS
List of distracting activities
The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook
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Myers-Briggs Personality Types
Myers-Briggs 16 personality types
How Jung described our personality types
Understanding the cognitive functions
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ADHD
ADDitude: Inside the ADHD mind
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Harm reduction re: substance use & addiction
4-week tracker & drinking analyzer
Gabor Maté: Addiction is a response to suffering
On the neurobiology of addiction
Secular Al-Anon; find a meeting
Buddhist recovery network; find a meeting
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Self-compassion
Self-compassion guided practices & exercises
There is nothing wrong with you
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Grief & bereavement
Have you considered the benefits of crying?
Five things to know about processing loss
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Encouragement
Another Postponement of Destruction
Pete Carroll & the power of positive coaching
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Hope
Hope is the thing with feathers
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Permission
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Longing for connection
Sleeping Next to the Man on the Plane
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Attention
The value of 'deep work' in an age of distraction
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Compassion
Please call me by my true names
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Memory
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Desire
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Love
[i carry your heart with me(i carry it in]
The enduring romance of mixtapes
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Appreciation & gratitude
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Resolve
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Relief
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Curiosity
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Coincidence
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inspiration · creative process · self-discovery · play
Not quite what I was planning: six-word memoirs
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Awe
The quiet profundity of everyday awe
How a bit of awe can improve your health
Awe-inspiring experiences change our perception of time
Awe isn't necessarily good for you
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Birthday
[i thank You God for most this amazing]
44th Birthday Evening, at Harris’s
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Sacredness
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Choices
The enduring allure of Choose Your Own Adventure books
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HSP
Is your child an orchid or a dandelion?
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Introversion
The power of introverts in a world that can't stop talking
Why do we undervalue introverts?
Dividend of the Social Opt Out
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Holistic
What we gain from a good-enough life
The little rituals that keep us going
The unexpected joy of repeat experiences
The benefits of ‘wise selfishness’
To get out of your head, get out of your house
Why walking is the most underrated form of exercise
An overlooked cure for loneliness
Psychotherapy books & resources
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Forest (& indoor plant) bathing
Forest bathing: how trees can help you find health and happiness
The mood-boosting effects of indoor plants
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Mental health in modern times
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Masks
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Needs
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Values
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Bravery & vulnerability
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Being human
People share their deepest secrets anonymously
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Friendship
The six forces that fuel friendship
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Couples
The Skin Deep relationship cards
Love Made Simple couples workshop
Hold Me Tight couples workshop
Premarital counseling workshop
Emotionally focused workbook for couples
Seven principles for making marriage work
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Infidelity
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Poly
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Parenthood
Diary of a baby: what your child sees, feels, and experiences
Why we long for the most difficult days of parenthood
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Childfree by choice
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Codependency
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Trauma-informed resilience practices
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Depression & bipolar
Touched with fire: bipolar and the artistic temperament
Unholy ghost: writers on depression
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Seasons
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Sleep
Can’t sleep? Try sticking your head in the freezer
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Dreams
Everything we know about dreams
A new test for an old theory about dreams
Why adults still dream about school
The dreams you can’t remember might never have occurred
The unknowable enigma of babies’ dreams
What people around the world dream about
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Stutz
Tool for procrastination: Reversal of desire
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Happier
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Mindfulness & meditation in everyday life
Tara Brach: Guided meditations
Wherever you go, there you are
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Mindfulness in treating depression
The mindful way through depression
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Neuroscience for treating depression
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Secular contemplative Buddhist psychology
Toward a psychology of awakening
The key: and the name of the key is willingness
How you do anything is how you do everything
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Authentic movement
Offering from the conscious body
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Digital age & social media
No-phone phobia self-assessment
How to break up with your phone
Increase your digital well-being
Reclaiming conversation: the power of talk in a digital age
The shallows: what the internet is doing to our brains
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Artificial intelligence
What poets know that ChatGPT doesn’t
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Conspiracy theories & cults
I grew up in the Westboro Baptist Church. Here's why I left.
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Music, emotion & memory
Why does music affect our moods so much?
How a song can spark a vivid recollection
Music-evoked autobiographical memories in everyday life
Lyrics on the left side, music on the right; how our brains disentangle music
Music evokes at least 13 emotions; scientists have mapped them
Harnessing the healing power of music
How music makes us feel better
Why we listen to our favorite songs on repeat
Extreme re-listening: songs people love… and continue to love
How music loops help me feel more present
Schopenhauer on the power of music
Musicophilia: Tales of music & the brain
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Philosophy
The Socrates Express: In search of life lessons from dead philosophers
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Math
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Reading
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Space
The existential wonder of space
From the archives: Holy Shit, Man Walks on Fucking Moon
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The power of poetry
Autobiography in five short chapters
Milk & honey · The sun & her flowers
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Relatable neurosis
Man spends whole day dreading fun activity he signed up for
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Sense of humor & parody
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Cats
Purring is a love language no human can speak
I could pee on this (and other poems by cats)
15 great cat poems not written by cats
A cartoon tribute to cats, & the poets who loved them
Cats give the laws of physics a biiiiig stretch
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Dogs
I could chew on this (and other poems by dogs)
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Introspection
A natural history of the senses
Stopping By Woods On a Snowy Evening
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Guilt & remorse
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Bearing witness
We wish to inform you that tomorrow we will be killed with our families: stories from Rwanda
At the Un-National Monument along the Canadian Border
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Exploring what it means to be white
White fragility (original free/open source essay)
We need to talk about whiteness